A quiet question about where your energy, choices, and attention are really going.
Good morning lovely!!
I used to think being a good person meant being available.
If someone needed something, I helped.
If something needed to get done, I did it.
If there was a problem, I figured it out (or at least tried).
A lot of those qualities served me well.
They helped me be a good friend, partner, teacher, human.
But there was a question I eventually had to ask myself:
Was I helping because I wanted to... or because I didn't know how to not help?
That question changed a lot for me.
There is a difference between generosity and over-giving.
Between compassion and taking responsibility for someone else's life.
Between supporting someone and quietly believing they can't handle it without you.
And this one is a tricky one...
Because often, it comes from love.
That's what makes it so hard to see.
We don't always give our power away because someone is taking it from us.
Sometimes we hand it over because we think that is what love looks like.
I've been thinking about this a lot as we move into our theme of Sovereignty. Inspired by the season of Leo, the Lion, the King of the Jungle (and if you just pictured little Simba being held up to the crowds, I did too).
But I'm not talking about the kind of sovereignty associated with kings, queens, or power over others (although I do love a good King Arthur story).
The kind that asks:
Am I leading my own life?
Am I listening to myself?
Am I honoring what I know?
Am I making choices from alignment...
or from guilt, fear, obligation, or the desire to keep everyone else comfortable?
One of the hardest parts of reclaiming your power is that it changes the dynamics around you.
When you stop automatically saying yes, someone may notice.
When you stop fixing what isn't yours to fix, someone may have to step forward.
When you start honoring your own needs, someone who benefited from you ignoring them may not understand.
And that can feel uncomfortable.
But discomfort doesn't always mean you're doing something wrong.
Sometimes it means you're doing something different.
I think this is why sovereignty requires both compassion and courage.
The courage to choose yourself.
The compassion to remember that choosing yourself doesn't mean abandoning others.
It simply means you are no longer abandoning yourself.
🌿 This Week's Sacred Sunday Ritual
Take a few moments with your journal and reflect:
Where am I managing someone else's life instead of living my own?
Notice what comes up.
Maybe it's a relationship.
Maybe it's a responsibility you've taken on.
Maybe it's an expectation you've been carrying.
Maybe it's simply the habit of looking outside yourself for permission.
Then ask:
What would it look like to trust myself here?
Not perfectly.
Not dramatically.
Just one small choice at a time.
The goal of course isn't to become someone who doesn't care or is apathetic.
The goal isn't to become independent from everyone around you and to be a do-it-on-my-own super hero.
The goal is to become deeply rooted enough in yourself that you can show up from love instead of depletion.
That is sovereignty.
With gratitude,
Megan
Sacred Yoga & Sound
If you've been feeling called to deepen your practice and explore this work in community, I would love to welcome you inside.
How will you meet your life this week?
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